Forgiveness is a very important part of human living. As human beings comprise of flaws and frailties. Forgiveness has a strong relationship with the mental and emotional well-being of humans, Humans certainly do mistakes at different levels. Which includes both forgive-able and unforgivable mistakes. But without forgiveness, our relations cannot work. It is the beauty of the relations which makes the bond stronger and better. In this article, I will share the types of forgiveness and their effects on the life of humans.
TYPES OF FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness comprises 3 types:
- 3 Exoneration
Exoneration simply ensures that the relationship’s record is swept clean and it is returned to its former state of innocence. What happens is that you forgive your partner and come back to the state where you have started from. Just like the old saying:” Forgive and forget”. It is just giving space to your partner and make him believe as if nothing had happened at all. But exoneration cannot be applied to all aspects of life. There are a few situations or conditions in which you can apply for exoneration. That include:
- A hurtful situation which was a complete accident for which no one can be considered at fault or any blame can be applied
- The hurtful situation was caused due to a misunderstanding
Forbearance is the second degree of forgiveness. It refers to restraint, bear, and self patience. It implies that you should stop focusing on the mistake, let go of any grudges or bad thinking you might have, and put an end to revenge fantasies. So, to say forbearance means to bear the bad act or a hurtful situation but still forgiving the person who caused you hurt. Dealing with a hurtful situation gracefully.
This is similar to “forgive but don’t forget” or “trust but verify”.
The lowest level of forgiving is release, which refers to circumstances in which the person who has harmed you has never admitted any misconduct. He or she has either never apologized or has apologized in a way that is either insufficient or dishonest. But you forgive people to ease the burden from your heart. Because it makes things easy for you. When you let go of what people did to you. You are not forgiving them but forgiving yourself as well.
Some examples of where the release may apply to include:
- Survivors of child abuse
- Business people cheated by partners
- Betrayal by friends or relatives